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…2009 has been crazy so far!  I can’t believe January is almost over!!  I’ve had travels, a birthday, lots of crazy stuff going on at work and I feel like I’ve neglected my blog.  I have to catch you up on the recipes I’ve made the past couple of weeks but I’ll do that in a later post.

I wanted to write about a conversation I had with a friend recently.  We were talking about relationships and how when it doesn’t work out, we always say something along the lines of, “well, their loss!”

It got me wondering though…”their” must be “you” at some point, right?  What if it’s not “their loss” but “YOUR loss”….what if you’re the one who is fucking up every relationship you get into?  Rather depressing but something I started thinking about in regard to my past relationships or potential relationships.  Am I doing something to keep me in a single state?  I’ve talked about self sabotaging behaviors in the past which I think I’ve displayed on occasion….but what if it really is ME?  Between my friend and I we started a downward spiral of self questioning/loathing…of course we laughed it off at the end.  Surely it’s not us?!  We’re amazing, talented, attractive people!!

But….what if it IS me?

4 thoughts on “And now for a commercial break…

  1. If the person really liked you then they would look past the fact that you are self-sabotoging. The right one is out there somewhere.

  2. I agree with Jonathan, to a point.

    I think the right person will accept you for who you are, flaws and all. But at the same time I don’t think it’s good to just let your (this is a universal ‘your’) flaws run wild without making an effort to keep them under control because you love and respect someone. If you care about someone you don’t want to hurt them and/or your relationship by just letting yourself go, so to speak.

    Give and take. Compromise, etc.

  3. Agreed with Johnathon and Crystal, also to a point 🙂

    If you have a trait you feel is flawed, then work on it for your own satisfaction. If someone else sees a trait as a flaw and you don’t, you may or may not want to work on it. Heh.

  4. Agreed. I’m definitely the self-sabotaging type. If they really like you, they’ll keep at it, and you’ll realize what you’re doing before it’s too late, and you can both move forward from there. 🙂

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